subject: Save The Relationship Advice: Relationship Pointers for New Husband And Wife In Rough Waters [print this page] Save The Relationship Advice: Relationship Pointers for New Husband And Wife In Rough Waters
No matter how long you have been married, it is expected that you and your partner will undergo problems. When you were young, you may have witnessed your parents argue, and it may seem like they have been married for the longest time. It is no different with newly married couples. You will have clashes, arguments and . That is normal even if, during the early days of marriage, you believed you had the consummate relationship. It is still too early in the game for you to lose heart. You have all the chance in the world to save the relationship.
Being married for a while the best and worst in you will emerge. As the marriage progresses, you will pick up on changes in your spouse's personality, even aspects that may bother you. Still do not despair. Talk about it with your spouse, or even argue about it. Arguments are a normal part of married life. You have no doubt seen your parents argue when you were still living at home but look at them, still side by side even as all the years have gone by.
Do not let inessential nuisances irritate you. This may only add fuel to fire as these may blow up into more problems and may flare up into a bigger fight. Begin solving problems while these are still insignificant as this is easier to accomplish. The longer you wait, the more complicated the problem becomes and the harder it will be for you to resolve this. Then you may lose your opportunity to save the relationship.
Be conscious of the issue. It will be easier to work out the issue if you recognize this. Arrive at not just one but a few options to resolve the issues. Do this together with your spouse. It is only when you exert effort together to provide a solution will you find success.
If you or your spouse needs to make changes in yourselves to resolve the problem, make the cshanges gradually. Share with each other your goals of substituting your bad characteristics with good ones. And as you bring to successful conclusion each goal, reward yourselves for this.
When you and your partner talk about the issues, speak calmly. Raising your voice may only lead to hurt feelings and anger. Do not bring up the past. Concentrate on the issues now and try to resolve these instead of suppressing ill feelings about past mistakes. The past is over and you are now aiming to move forward to save the relationship.
Forgiveness is still vital. Resolving the issue will be ineffective if you do not learn to grant forgiveness. When you allow yourself be wrapped up by hatred and bad feelings, this will just result to more disappointment and more problems. Accept that neither you nor your partner is perfect. Forgive past sins and strive to improve and amend your ways to save the relationship. But do not be impatient. Forgiveness will take time and you should allot yourself and your partner the chance to do this if you want to save the relationship.
And last, once you are able to undertake these, make a commitment. Accept the consequence, which may be awful but necessary. Promise that you will see it through and do all that can be done to save the relationship.
