subject: Do Not Rush to Get Your Ex Back [print this page] Do Not Rush to Get Your Ex Back Do Not Rush to Get Your Ex Back
Now that you have broken up, the first impulse is to go run after your ex and somehow snatch your ex back. But you know this is not going to work. So you should try to get a cool head, I know this is hard, given the circumstances.
One good way is to cry your heart out. I don't care if you are a man or woman, it works to clear your heated emotions. When you are calmed down, you will see that there is no need to rush things. You can make up immediately but it would not last long, given that both of you still don't understand why the breakup occurred.
First thing to do is to deal with your anger. You thought your ex treated you unfairly, and you are justified in your criticisms. Have you thought of putting yourself in the other shoe? This is the one thing couples should do whenever there is conflict, but it is seldom done, leading to all kinds of problems.
When you do the above step, you will understand a lot of things. Maybe you can even see how your relationship can proceed in the future. Then you can contact you ex and see if you two can talk, but not before both of you has calmed down sufficiently.
To see if your ex has cooled down, put out "feelers" and try to sense his/her state of mind. This could in the form of short text message or short emails. The replies will give you enough hints. Phone calls are not so good, because there is the temptation to get in a shouting match.
If it has been going well it is time to draw up an action plan and carry out systematically. For this you will need expert help. And before you try to get your ex back, you must know what were the mistakes that caused the breakup, otherwise it will be the same things all over again.
