subject: Are You Living in a Sexless Marriage? Steps to Recapture the Intimacy with Your Spouse [print this page] Are You Living in a Sexless Marriage? Steps to Recapture the Intimacy with Your Spouse
Are you living in a sexless marriage? You're likely feeling a whole host of emotions associated with it. Many couples struggle through this same issue. There's a misconception that when intimacy leaves a marriage it's always caused by one of the partners falling out of love with the other or seeking out an affair. That's not necessarily the case at all. Intimacy changes for many reasons within a marriage and regardless of why yours has become sexless, there is a way for you to change it. You don't have to continue to live like this. You can pull your spouse closer again and reignite their desire for you. Understanding how to change a sexless marriage includes recognizing what happened and why. Marriages always change and that's a part of life. However, when one of those changes is a shift in intimacy, it can challenge the couple's commitment to one another. You must try and identify what is causing the distance between you two. Often times it's just the case of a conflict that the couple can't resolve. Their feelings of distance over the issue at hand carry over into the bedroom. Another reason why intimacy sometimes falls to the wayside in a marriage is that there's an overwhelming amount of stress for the couple to deal with. If one or both partners has to juggle a stressful career, with paying bills and tending to the family, intimacy will likely be the very last thing on their mind.
Once you believe you know why your marriage has lost its passion, you can get to work changing it. If it's indeed something that has been born from a never ending argument, deal with that now. Be the one to take the first step towards compromise. You can also work on finding outlets to help you alleviate your stress. If the problem is related more to your spouse and their stress level, get onboard with helping them find solutions that will help them to be calmer and more in control of their life and time. Working on this together is actually part of the solution. You'll find that it will draw you closer again.
Becoming intimate again after a time can feel a bit awkward for you both. It's natural for it to feel this way but there are ways to overcome it. Start outside the bedroom by touching your partner more. Even something as simple as reaching for their hand or rubbing their shoulders can make a difference in how you relate to one another physically. The key is to take it in small steps and then enjoy the moment. Rediscovering this part of your marriage will be a pleasure for you both.
