subject: Social Life Improving Mindset, Where You 100% Avoid Negative Bad Influences in the Form of Bad Vibes By Simon Haestoe [print this page] Social Life Improving Mindset, Where You 100% Avoid Negative Bad Influences in the Form of Bad Vibes By Simon Haestoe
If the vibe of a person feels like mental quicksand, it is mental quicksand. Avoid it like the pest. If you get this person as a friend - if the bad vibe is a consistent one with this person - then being friends with the person is not to win friends.
When you consistently spend time with this person, a new mentality SNEAKS into your life - in the form of a habit of looking at things in a slightly, or more than slightly, more negative way. This takes your life, perhaps inadvertently - which only makes it worse - in a slightly different direction. This slight change of the direction, as time passes by, becomes not so slight.- It becomes seriously harmful to your overall life quality. As I said, the sneakiness of this is perhaps the most severe thing of all of them. because you REALLY do not see it coming. If you like this person for many reasons - or perhaps you two have been childhood friends - but at the present you do not quite vibe, do not spend time together. It will not be a cool thing to do to the other person, because it will not help that person. If you spend time with the person because he/she is lonely, the person will feel that is the reason. you cannot fake enthusiasm. If you spend time with the person for any other reason than your genuine attraction to him/her, this person will feel that.
I got slightly off topic there. But the "do not spend time with people if you, at a deep level, do not want to" relates to this as well. The reason why you do not want to spend time with the person might not be that severe - but it will really hurt you, both, if you two continue to spend time with each other. You will be reminded by how good friends you used to be - and, when comparing the current relationship to how things used to be, it will become very depressive.
The depth of the problem is key. If you feel at a really deep, fundamental, level that you do not want to spend time with this person - perhaps because, frankly, this person has grown in a completely different direction than you - you cannot spend time with him/her. However, if there really is not such depth to your current problem, avoid reading this into it that could create such a problem. Do not start projecting things onto your friends - just because you get scared, from reading this article, that you two might have a deep problem. I do not think you will do that, but there might be some nut cases out there who would.
I hope this is a refreshing way of thinking that helps you in your social life and enables you to stay away from those bad influences.
