subject: Social Life & Self-Esteem Boosting Mindset That Lets You Observe and Destroy Your Own Worry [print this page] Social Life & Self-Esteem Boosting Mindset That Lets You Observe and Destroy Your Own Worry
If you want to boost your social life, and win friends, you need to realize that your thoughts are YOUR thoughts. What is going on inside your head is not necessarily what is going on outside it. Contemplate that. Makes your head spin, does it not? That is good; you need to be a little shaken. It is actually very important, being shocked this way, as it inevitably contrasts the depression. When you look at someone, and think they show signs of disliking you, is that true - that they are doing that - or are you just thinking that? Look at it this way... if you are in your head, thinking about what that person might mean, are you seeing what is actually happening? You are not. You are not, because you are in your head - you see what is going on in your head, your thoughts, as opposed to what is going on in reality, in the face, eyes and voice of that person. Your thoughts are never in the moment - they judge and compare something that has already happened or that you think might happen. Your thoughts are never aware of what is happening, but your senses can be - if you allow them to.
When we are at home alone - I am speaking from my own experience, obviously, but I think that a lot of people would agree - often - we sometimes start thinking about what people think of us. The key is, we THINK about it. You can think anything about anyone, and make it just as vivid as anything, without there being as much as an ounce of truth to what you are thinking. Of course - if you do not know this, it might potentially mess up things for you. If you have thought a lot of things about a person, let us say you have thought the person dislikes you, if you are in your head the next time you two meet are you going to see things for what they really are or are you going to see that person as he/she dislikes you?
You do not know that a person dislikes you. Even if it looks exactly that way, you do not know. Anyone can have any look on their face without you having to do with it. If the person dislikes you, that might be something would be nothing if you did not make a big deal out of it. So assume nothing - because you just do not know.
I hope this method improves every social interaction and helps you win friends!
