subject: How to Make Him Commit – A Little Nudge in the Right Direction [print this page] How to Make Him Commit A Little Nudge in the Right Direction
Has this love affair been going on long enough and it's time he made an honest woman of you and committed? Are you tired of waiting around for him to come up with some grand proposal and you're about to tell him to go all in or back out for good? Is a true commitment something that's important to you and you don't understand why he's being so stubborn.
What most women will do at this stage in a relationship is literally badger the guy until he either caves or leaves. Giving a guy an ultimatum can leave you regretting your words. So instead of forcing the issue, let's look at some more ladylike tactics.
Understand his fear. Men are scared to death of having a woman who will come in and suddenly get rid of everything in his life that he finds fun. Women are known to be controlling in relationships and this is the main reason guys back away from a commitment. But don't simply try to sooth his fears by telling him that this will never happen to him. You have to be living it now. Have you started trying to take control a little bit here and a little bit there? Watch it.
But what if you've always been the kind of girl who completely understands a guy's need for his freedom? If you can look at your relationship and honestly say that you've been giving and open and understanding and he's still holding back, then maybe it's time you stepped back.
If you've given up a few hobbies or activities to spend more time with your man, reconnect with your old self and begin these activities anew. If you've maintained the majority of them, increase the amount of time you spend tending to what you enjoy, thus leaving you less time to spend with him.
Chances are he'll start to wonder what's going on. At the very least, he'll start to miss you and will make huge concessions to be with you more. And if you're out of his hair enough, he may even start to worry about the possibility of losing you. Knowing that a commitment is important to you, he'll know what he has to do if he wants to keep you in his life.
