subject: Save The Relationship Advice: Relationship Recommendation for Young Couples Facing Probems [print this page] Save The Relationship Advice: Relationship Recommendation for Young Couples Facing Probems
It doesn't matter how long you have been married, it is expected that you and your partner will encounter problems. When you were still living at home, you may have witnessed your mom and dad bicker, and it could appear that they have been married for the longest time. Nothing is different with newly married couples. You will have clashes, conflicts and . That is normal even if, while newly married, you believed you had the spotless relationship. It is still too early in the game for you to surrender. You have all the fighting chance in the world to save the relationship.
Being in a marriage for a while will bring out the best and worst in each partner. As the marriage progresses, you will see changes in your spouse's character, even characteristics that may get on your nerves But do not give up hope. Talk about it with your partner, or even argue about it. Arguments are a common portion of married life. You have perhaps seen your parents argue when you were still living at home but look at them, still together even as all the years have gone by.
Do not let irrelevant nuisances agitate you. This may only confuse the issues as these may blow up into more problems and may explode into a bigger fight. Begin looking for solutions to problems while these are still insignificant as this is easier to achieve. The longer you wait, the more complicated the problem becomes and the harder it will be for you to resolve this. Then you may lose your opportunity to save the relationship.
Be conscious of the issue. It will be easier to work out the issue if you understand this. Come up with not just one but a lot of alternatives to resolve the issues. Do this together with your spouse. It is only when you exert effort together to provide a solution will you find success.
If you or your spouse needs to make changes in yourselves to solve the problem, make the cshanges gradually. Share with each other your objectives of replacing your bad characteristics with good ones. And as you accomplish each goal, reward yourselves for this.
When you and your spouse talk about the issues, do not raise your voices. Raising your voice may only result to bruised feelings and hate. Do not bring up the past. Home in on the present issues and try to resolve these instead of harboring ill feelings about mistakes in the past. The past is past and you are now aiming to move forward to save the relationship.
Forgiving each other is still key. Resolving the issue will be useless if you are not willing to give forgiveness. When you allow yourself be consumed by hatred and bad feelings, this will just result to more discontent and more problems. Learn to live with the fact that neither you nor your partner is perfect. Forgive old sins and undertake to improve and make amends to save the relationship. But do not be impatient. Forgiveness cannot be made overnight and you should give yourself and your partner the chance to do this if you endeavor to save the relationship.
And finally, when you are able to undertake these, make a promise. Accept the aftereffect, which may be awful but essential. Promise that you will not let up and do all that can be done to save the relationship
