subject: Do You Regret Having Sex So Soon? How Women Can Undo This Dating Mistake [print this page] Do You Regret Having Sex So Soon? How Women Can Undo This Dating Mistake
Do you regret having sex so soon? Do you wish that you could have a do over with him? You'd forgo the early intimacy and instead focus on building an emotional bond with him, right? Unfortunately, life doesn't offer many second chances but with this particular issue all hope isn't lost. If you're a woman who slept with a man too soon, you can undo the damage and get the flailing relationship back on track. Stop beating yourself up and start repairing the mess you've made.
The main reason that women regret having sex early in a relationship is afterwards the guy's demeanor and attitude, completely changes. He pulls back and she ends up feeling used and discarded. If this is exactly what is occurring in your relationship you probably are at a loss. You don't know what to do and each time you reach out to him, he pulls back more. Even though it feels like the connection between the two of you can't be salvaged, it can be.
Before you do anything else, stop talking about what happened. Each time you bring up the intimacy, you are shining a big, unwanted, spotlight on your mistake. You've likely noticed that he's completely uncomfortable when you talk about it. That's because it reminds him that you slept with him very early in the relationship and that it may be a pattern of behavior for you. As much as we think that men want us to be sexually open and ready to explore, they only want us to be doing that with them. Right now, your guy is likely thinking that whatever you did with him, you've done with every other guy you've dated in the same time frame. So stop bringing it up.
Instead, you need to shift the entire dynamic of your relationship with him. It's very focused on intimacy at the moment. You need to change that. You can do so by focusing more on the getting to know you aspect in a general sense as opposed to the intimate sense. Invite him out and start dating him again. Go to fun places and show him that there is much more to you than what he's experienced up to this point. Let him see that you're a dynamic, interesting and well rounded woman.
For the time being, keep intimacy to a minimum. You don't want him to see you as someone he can turn to when his desires are pressing. It's much more beneficial to you both if you connect on an emotional level before you revisit the more intimate side of things.
