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The "no contact" rule
There are many things to keep in mind after your relationship has ended and you want your ex back. The "no contact" rule should be applied immediately. Avoid finding excuses to speak or see your ex. You should ask yourself before calling your ex if you have a silly reason for calling them; more time to none if you find it silly then it probably is silly. If you do have, legitimate reasons for contacting your ex ensure that you stick to the origin of why you called them in the first place. Do not utilize this opportunity to try and guilt them or for you to jump on a soapbox. This will more than likely tempt your ex to get off the phone with you as soon as possible.
Utilize common sense
Do not rub it in your ex's face how great things are going for you. Do not bring up your dating life unless of course they do first. Even if your ex brings up his or her own dating life, you should choose to remain as discreet as possible. You do not want to come off as bragging, no matter what your ex is saying. Keep the conversation as casual as possible while lightly flirting with them. You want your contact with your ex to be an enjoyable experience as compared to one, which would make anyone, cringe.
Stay busy while staying casually in touch with your ex
Let your ex know in a light-hearted way that you still find them attractive. Allow your ex to see that you do indeed have a life and do not hang on the phone for hours with your ex. This can possible appear needy and this is not healthy for you or your ex.
Do not beg and plead
People are attracted to what makes them feel good. Do not overwhelm your ex with cries for mercy or begging them to come back. This will make you appear weak and will create an atmosphere which your ex will want to avoid.
Asking your ex out for a date
You might want to attempt to casually ask your ex out for a date. Make sure that the date is something very casual such as a coffee date or meeting up at the bookstore. You do not want to appear that you are trying to impress them.
Getting back together
If you and your ex get back together this will strategically place both of you in a position, which hopefully both of you learned from your past mistakes. It is unrealistic to believe that upon getting back together with your ex that no bumpy roads will exist but people overall should learn from their mistakes, especially when an old relationship is rekindled.
Communication should be improved at this point while both appreciating the fact that you were able to rekindle the old flame. Keep in mind that when you were the one who was dumped, the ex will have more confidence in the relationship if they had to work a little to get you back. Submissiveness is mandatory at times within any relationship however; no one wants someone who never speaks up for themselves. People generally enjoy challenges while treasuring what they have had to work for.
