subject: Is Your Relationship Doomed? These 2 Signs May Be a Warning It Is [print this page] Is Your Relationship Doomed? These 2 Signs May Be a Warning It Is
If you are in an unhealthy relationship, and you are worried that it may be something that is not fixable - then, you may be right. A really good indication that a relationship doomed, is the fact that you think it is! There are some other tell-tale signs that your relationship may be in trouble, and may not be fixable.
The first sign your relationship may be doomed is constant fighting. Fighting is a sign of poor communication skills. The fights probably start over lies, misunderstandings, beliefs, differences in opinions, and one person not listening to the other person. All of this fighting boils down to improper use of communication.
Communication is about talking and listening, but it is also more than just the act of doing it. It is the way you do it. Talking should be done by calmly stating your opinions or beliefs or feelings. It should not be about stating why you are right, but rather why you feel that way. Listening should be about understanding what the other person is saying and not judging that person with your own beliefs or feelings.
Communication should be a calm and rational discussion that ends with a positive outcome. Either you get to understand each other better, or you have worked out your differences in a way that pleases both of you. If you find that this is not your relationship, then your relationship needs some help with its communication skills. Otherwise, you can look forward to more fights and a possible breakup.
The second sign your relationship may be doomed is commitment, or lack thereof. If one of you is more committed than the other person to the relationship, then there is an uneven balance of emotions and feelings happening between the two of you. If you are the one more committed then you may find yourself being pushy, smothering, and needy. If you are the one that is not as committed, then you may find yourself being smothered and annoyed.
If one person is not as committed, than they may be more likely to leave the relationship due to the lack of devotion to the other person. They may cheat, use, abuse, or torment the other person - simply because they can. They do not have the strong emotions the other person has, and therefore they have a sense of power over this person; which equals a very unhealthy relationship.
If your partner is not committing to the relationship, and you want a committed relationship, you may have to end the relationship. You can't force someone to want to be with you, and the longer you fool yourself into thinking you can, the longer you will suffer.
