subject: How to Successfully Get Your Ex Back - Implement the "No Contact" Approach! [print this page] How to Successfully Get Your Ex Back - Implement the "No Contact" Approach!
If you start searching the Internet in hope of finding some effective ideas how to get your ex back, you will instantly come across of the "No Contact" concept. Almost every site which deals with a subject of derailed relationships, advocates it as the most effective approach of getting your ex back. Unfortunately, it only illustrates that despite being so omnipresent it is still so misunderstood and misused.
No Contact is not a tool to getting your ex back. It is all about self-healing and getting your life together after a painful separation from you lost lover or spouse. By removing your ex from your life you are removing the source of your pain from it. You are removing a source of your emotional turmoil.
It is a constructive step of regaining control of your emotions and your life. In most cases No Contact is a long and painful process but eventually you will get better. You must get better if you want to get your ex back. What most rejected lovers fail to realise is that they will never get any real chance of reconciliation without at least some degree of self-healing.
It is very likely that you have already tried some begging, pleading, and even crying only to be rejected again by your ex partner. Actually your ex lover or spouse may still feel a lot of sympathy for you. But you have to understand that sympathy doesn't equal attraction. These are two different things and as long as you continue displaying this needy, clingy attitude you will never have any real chance of getting your ex back. It kills attraction completely.
Use the No Contact approach to heal yourself and to regain control of your emotions. You have to get your confidence back. A confident, self-possessed person is always sexy and attractive. And this exactly the kind of attitude your ex wants to see from you. You have to become a challenge for her/him again. Only then you will have a shot at getting your ex back in your life again.
But it is true that No Contact can be successfully used in reuniting with your ex. As a matter of fact the most effective method of getting your ex back implements the No Contact concept as one of its ingredients. However, the main drawback of this method is that it slows down self-healing process and in some cases even completely postpone it.
