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Do you know how to be the most confident girl in your office or in the club? Do you admire that woman who walks tall, fast, and proud and has a winning smile and laugh? Do you envy the way that she catches every man's eye wherever she goes? It doesn't take years of training. Just by knowing the secrets you can become the most confident girl around any man.
You know the logic behind exuding confidence. You don't want that scared little man hiding in the corner and even if you do, you'll never meet him if he doesn't come out and join the grown-ups. To win the game, you have to play the game. Guys don't want the wallflower either, so come on in, and join the living.
The first person who has to see confidence in you is you. Looking good gives you confidence in yourself so that you can take that first step and join the party or the conversation. You know your best assets, and showing them off makes you believe that you belong, which is the first step to achieving confidence. Your hair looks great now, you have a wonderful subtle scent, your make-up is modern and not overdone.
If you're not so good at fashion and cosmetics, your girlfriends will be happy to help. You can get great advice and even a mini-makeover from the lady at the cosmetics counter at the department store too, or get some helpful tips online. Remember, "conservative" does not send a message of confidence; "sexy" does. So show it off, with good taste.
The way you carry yourself and hold your head will get you noticed too. Turning a few heads will give you more confidence, as confidence builds on itself in an upward spiral. So, now that you're feeling like you belong with this crowd and you're getting some attention, you might actually start to feel like you can win that's the second step in the confidence spiral.
So, you've made a great entrance and mastered the "confidence at a distance" aspect of our challenge. But there's more if you really want to be the most confident girl in the room who's getting all the attention. Now that you've joined the group, you have to master the art of close-up confidence. This part is easy fake it until it becomes natural.
No, it's not dishonest. Remember, when you were a sad, crying little girl? Mom would tell you to smile because then you would feel happy. And it worked! It still works. You can't be sad when you're smiling. The same is true of confidence. So, how do you "fake" it? Close-up confidence is all about the eyes and the smile. The conversation is important to. You know a lot about many topics, and when you're not ready to speak, just ask a good question.
Never "zone out" when you're in a group or with a guy. Raised eyebrows, steady eye contact, and limited blinking show keen interest and confidence. Wimpy people are afraid to look a man in the eye, but you're not. Nodding your head, a hearty laugh with a grasp of his arm or a hand on his shoulder, and speaking in full sentences make you seem confident. They make you feel confident too. And there you have it: If you feel confident, then you really are confident.
Practice makes perfect, so don't give up. Put yourself out there and soon you will be the most confident girl in front of any man.
