subject: If You Hurt Him - Should You Ask Him To Forgive You Or Try To Get Your Ex Back Some Other Way? [print this page] If You Hurt Him - Should You Ask Him To Forgive You Or Try To Get Your Ex Back Some Other Way?
There is an old song that says 'you always hurt the one you love' and if you have hurt your ex boyfriend, you are probably sorry. That will make you wonder how you can make things right again. Should you ask him to forgive you or try to get your ex back some other way? A lot will depend on how you hurt him.
If you hurt him by throwing a tantrum and saying some spiteful things, an apology might bring him back immediately. If you did something more serious, such as cheating, you might have to crawl a little. Think of what it would take to get you to forgive him if your ex boyfriend had hurt you the same way you hurt him. But, before you do anything, you should give him time to think and sort out his feelings.
Trying to get him to forgive you when he is still angry would be a big mistake. He would make accusations and you would try to defend yourself. In the end nothing would be accomplished. I know you are feeling guilty and you want to make peace with the man you love. That can come later, but right now, the best thing you can give him is space and time.
If you could get your ex to sit down and talk things over, it would not solve anything. There is only one way to get your ex boyfriend to forgive you. You have to show him that you have changed. So, you should be working on those changes while you are giving him space. If it was a tantrum that caused your ex boyfriend to be hurt, prove you can control your temper. If you were cheating, the affair has to end at once and you will have to prove it is over. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
You have to stop thinking of yourself and think of your ex boyfriend. He won't be able to get over the pain you have caused him immediately. If he loves you enough, in time, he will forgive you. The best thing to do is give him a few weeks to cool off and then call him and make a sincere apology. Do not cry, beg or make excuses. Just tell him you are sorry and end the conversation.
Keep working on changing the problem that caused him to be hurt. If you are sincere your ex boyfriend will be aware of your efforts to improve yourself. Making the apology and showing him you have changed is all you can do. When you have hurt your ex boyfriend that is the best way to get him back.
