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One of the most common questions asked of me, "is there a an simple way to not get so gosh darn angry?". The answer to that question is both simple and complex. Anger is an feeling. Scientists still don't know if we truly have "control" over our emotions. Regardless of that answer, we do know that we have control over our actions.
There is a common myth that has circulated over the years that other people can "make us" behave badly. That kind of thinking is obviously flawed because by taking it we essentially are blaming anything we do wrong on the other person, thus making our actions the responsibility of others. While our emotions might be hard to manage, we always have control over how we want to act and react to situations that arise in our lives. And, by the way, being in a bad mood or having a bad day doesn't give anyone the right to behave terribly towards others.
Here are a few anger management tips that can be gained in any quality anger management class:
1. Learn to be a assertive communicator of your feelings and needs. Most people really struggle with this simple change. They tend to behave badly and don't know how to explain to others how they are really feeling or what they need the other person to do differently in a way that is constructive. Learning how to be an assertive communicator is a skill easily acquired in a quality online anger management class or in person anger course.
2. Get your stress under control. Gaining skills in stress management can make you feel better and not snap as easily. Learning improved skills in stress management include getting regular exercise, eating appropriately, meditating, and getting decent rest. Stress is often viewed as a silent killer. We can't see all the destruction stress causes internally to our physical body or psychologically. If you don't have good coping skills for stress management, these can also be acquired in a trusted anger management class.
3. Can you forgive others who have wronged you? By learning how to forgive, we let go of a lot of psychological pain that we carry with us. Forgiving isn't just good for your mental health, but also has benefits physical health too. You don't have to forget what happened, but by learning to let go, you free yourself of the emotional suffering carried by holding a grudge or not forgiving someone in your life.
4. Gain skills in Empathy. Most people who suffer with anger lack good skills in empathy. Empathy is important because it connects us with others and lets others know we can feel what they are feeling. Lack of empathy causes problems in almost all interpersonal interactions and creates significant impairment in non personal situations such as waiting in line. Again, these skills can be gained in a quality anger control program.
Don't let your rage create problems any longer. Anger is one emotion we all emote, but letting our anger control our lives can erode important relationships. Find a certified or licensed anger management class, and get the help you need.
