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You know a temper tantrum is brewing when you see it: that little lip juts out, the eyes squint, the eyebrows furl, the cheeks get red, the palms clench, the feet start to stomp, and next thing you know, your child is throwing a full-blown temper tantrum. And you thought the terrible twos were long over! Temper tantrums affect kids of all ages starting from toddlerhood and often reappearing in the preteen and teenage years. Each stage has its temper tantrum triggers as well as its do's and don'ts for parents.
Where do temper tantrums begin and where do they end? Whether you have a two-year-old in the midst of the terrible twos or have an older child throwing temper tantrums, you're likely at your wit's end. Sometimes temper tantrums are downright funny but you don't dare let your kids know. Other times, YOU want to throw a temper tantrum too because dealing with these outbursts is so darned frustrating.
When is a Temper Tantrum more than just a Temper Tantrum?
Sometimes a temper tantrum is just a temper tantrum; your child gets frustrated and pitches a fit. Other times, there's more going on. Certain circumstances require professional help - and don't hesitate to get it if you need it. If you are worried about your child's tantrums (regardless of age), if your child is four or over yet throws frequent temper tantrums, if your child hurts himself or others during tantrums, or if you're concerned that YOU may not be able to control yourself and might hurt your child, please seek professional help. Help is available and is an absolute must under circumstances such as these.
Why do Toddlers Throw Temper Tantrums?
Young children throw temper tantrums when they are tired, stressed, frustrated, or trying to master a new skill. A toddler's age, development, temperament, and other factors contribute to how inclined he is to throw a temper tantrum. Some parents shake their heads in amazement as they realize that they've survived the terrible twos unscathed by temper tantrums. A few years later, these same parents are baffled when baby #2 comes along and throws temper tantrums with a vengeance.
Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums
How you deal with temper tantrums now sets the stage for many interactions with your child throughout your parent-child relationship. How will you respond? Will you get angry and lash back? Will you remain calm? Will you laugh it off? Will you plead for the tantrum to stop? Will you make fun of your child? Though it's not always easy, remaining calm is critical.
