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Some women will never become great with men. You might think I've lost my mind, but it's true. If you were to say to them: "How do you get a man to want you?" They would have no idea. A lot of guys just won't get it.
Many women are capable of getting men to want them. However, they struggle with this issue because they have made a subconscious choice to have this problem. You may be thinking "How can I make sure I'm not one of those women?" That's why I decided to write this article about how to get a man to want you. In the end, you won't know everything', but you will know more than what you did before.
You will probably never hear what I'm about to say from other gurus because it's such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.
For instance:
Meet Sara. Sara's a good woman, likes to be social and has taken a boot camp with another one of the pickup companies. But Sara still doesn't get the success she really wants; in fact she's not successful at all.
I am often asked why I don't help Sara out. Well, there are a couple reasons why I don't help Sara. One being she's too set in her ways and is stubborn. BUT, that's not the real reason. If Sara was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing her mind about things. The real reason why I can't help her is the same reason why she isn't successful with men. I've already said Sara's a good woman, but every time I talk to her I get the feeling that she wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about her. We don't like hanging out with Sara and neither do men.
Sara always gives this vibe of having an ulterior motive. She talks to you like a friend, which is great, but she naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that she's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me. The same thing happens to Sara when she's talking to men. She treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level she has an underlying intention. Having intentions with men isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they'll accept it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.
But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Men want to feel as though you're not trying to have a wedding in 3 months or that you are not overly desperate for a man that you would practically say and do anything. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW. Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have. Clearly that is not how to get a man to want you.
So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?
Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It's not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a man. Be able to talk to men not only because you want them to ask you out, but because men are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.
The next thing you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean directly telling a guy "The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that we can fall deeply in love and be married before next year." That's going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy. There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying.
So now that I've given you a few examples of what to do, still keep in mind that you cannot control what other people think and do. Just because he is the object of your affection' does not create any obligation that you be his. Look at it from his aspect. If there was some random guy who took an interest in you, is there anything that he could do to make you like him? Probably not! You will like him or not. You will find him attractive or not. You will find him funny or not. All he can do is try to be the best person he can be, and hope that you agree. The reverse is also true. Be the best person you can be, and let it develop--or not--from there.
