subject: Get Your Ex Back - Will You Do What It Takes To Get Them Back? [print this page] Get Your Ex Back - Will You Do What It Takes To Get Them Back?
Do you know how to get your ex back? If you have been in and out of breakups with your ex, sadly, the answer is no. Now before you chew me out, know that many couples are in the same boat as you. The same mistakes are repeated over and over, because it is all the couple knows. It did not work for the last breakup, so it likely will not work for the next one. Just how many more breakups do you want to go through? After awhile it just gets tiring. A few couples, well a few thousand couples, have successfully rebuilt their relationships and have been able to get past the off-on relationship cycle; all because they chose to heed the advice that follows. To help get you on the right track, let me provide some insider information to help you get your ex back.
Processing...
Think about how you feel after a break up. I would guess that along with not feeling very good about what happened, you are a mess of emotions from anger to sorrow. The process to get your ex back requires you to be in a state of rationality. When you are feeling all of these emotions, it is very difficult to be rational. Anything you attempt to do during this period of time is going to be colored by the emotions that are flooding your mind. It is going to be hard to do, but you have to place all the negativity to the side for the time being. It is unproductive to hold on to any of it.
Time, Peace...
Since you are in breakup mode, you have already started on to the next step: time apart. Before you start running back to your ex, stop. The worst thing you can do after a break up is try and get right back together. Like I said above, you are a mess of emotions, so is your ex. A cooling off period is needed right now. As much as you really want to be with them right now, it is not going to help you get your ex back. If you have gotten back together in the past, you likely did not even have a chance to discover why you broke up to begin with! Take time apart, it does not signify the end of the relationship. Your ex probably wants the same thing too. The time is just not right, yet.
Find A Happy Place...
So now that I have depressed you further, and suggested time apart, we move to the next step. Do not let all of the negativity get you down. Yes, being apart from your ex is frustrating. Flopping around in negative waters is not going to help you get your ex back. You have to focus on being positive. Find things you like to do that create a happy and positive environment around you. Your ex needs to see that you are getting along just fine without them. Consider this as time to get on your feet and build on a positive self-image and greater self-esteem. If you come across as a pathetic loser with no visible hope, you are very likely to turn off your ex. There are many things you can incorporate into your life that make you happy. Find them and live them.
Mums The Word...
You might think it is okay to contact your ex during this time apart. Unless there is a some specific reason you have to contact your ex, you need to sever all lines of communication with them. No phone calls, no texts, no letters, no emails. Let them make the first move when they are ready. As sincere as you might be in your communications at this time, there is a chance they will not take it in the same way, thus jeopardizing your chances to get your ex back. A good alternative and something that can be therapeutic is to write down your thoughts and feelings - for yourself. This will help get out what you are feeling and allow you to process everything that has transpired.
While all of these suggestions may go against what you have done in the past, they actually have helped hundreds if not thousands of couples get over a breakup. And not just get over it all, but helped them to rebuild and create a stronger bond between each other.
The key is that they chose to do what it takes to get results. Are you ready to do what it will take to get your ex back?
These suggestions and many others, have been compiled into a straight-forward, easy to follow, and successful resource. The list of happy couples goes on and on, and your relationship with your ex deserves a chance. Take a very important step in your relationship and visit my website for more information: http://getmyexbacktome.com.
