subject: He Dumped Me - 5 Shocking Truths Why It Happened [print this page] "Of all the promises shared, still, HE DUMPED ME." We hear a lot of people saying those lines, from being so in love to depression and heartbreak. The person being dumped feels that the world is not good to him, and all he ever wanted is to die. Remember that the feeling will pass in time. Even though you are really in pain, it isn't going to kill you. Just think that you can get over with it. It needs a lot of effort, help from friends and some adjustments of thinking and of course, time.
Feeling so crushed and broken from the experience, you will start becoming bitter, cautious, insecure, and less trusting. Finding someone else will take you for long as you are well focused on how to heal a broken heart. You see on the process of healing, same things go over your mind and you always tell yourself, "he dumped me". It is like you cannot still accept such fact.You may even start asking desperate questions to yourself, am I fat?, am I not a girlfriend/boyfriend material?, is my hair dry and brittle?, do I look ugly? When he dumped you, do not ever blame yourself. Your partner cannot just give you the real reasons why he dumped you so don't blame yourself. In order for you to help in thinking what could be the rational and probable reasons of dumping you, here are some basis that you can relate
1. Fall out of love
Do not presume that when a person courts you, he loves you; sometimes, he just likes you that's why he courts you. Love is the total value of the relationship and it only works when both lights the fire. The common mistake of the partner is allowing the relationship to be a routine; it is like you already know what you are going to do for the day and the next day with him. Making it as a routine will bore the relationship and the fire from love will lessen and both of you will just realize that you are no longer happy with each other and in the relationship.
2. Going Distance
This is not about long distance relationship. Even if they both live in one state or in one city, distance is felt in the relationship because of different priorities at work or even at school. Because of your busy schedule from work, you want to try meeting at least 3 times weekly, but in worst situation like you cannot just get out from your workplace, the most time you can meet weekly, is once. This is the most common reason why distance can cause the relationship to be miles apart even If you live in one local. Truly, a realization that love is already gone is brought about by distance.
3. Daily Arguments
It is normal in every relationship that arguments happen. You fight for time, attention, money, infidelity,and all other issues. Sometimes, those small fights can mean so much to you that your anger really strikes at you and so it can lead to a bigger conflict which cannot be resolved overtime. Fight in the relationship as i said is normal and healthy, but when fight has become a routine, it is no longer healthy. The relationship can be considered nonworking if fights are too much to bear, and your boyfriend could be the first to realize it, thus finding his way out.
4. Infidelity
Those mentioned above reasons can also trigger infidelity by your boyfriend. Because of those factors, the glow of the relationship starts to lessen, and so when your boyfriend meets someone from the workplace, he would want to establish relationship with that someone.
5. Dull relationship
Sometimes, you may feel that you are not doing those things that you used to do before as couples. You lost touch, intimacy and togetherness as partners. The relationship becomes dry and the connection between you starts to vanish.
Life has to go on despite the hard situation you are in. Learn to stand again after the fall, and do not allow your life to stop just because you were dumped and hurt. You are going to have to commit to picking yourself up and moving along. Do away with the negative emotions about your ex and into the relationship, just dwell on the things that make you a better person. For sure, there will be another person out there that will love you unconditionally. So what are you waiting for? Take an action! Take necessary actions, as in positive steps to make you a better person that when you look back on times you were depressed than ever, you can just simply say to yourself that it was one of the best life experiences that you ever experienced in your life, and finally you can say, "HE DUMPED ME HARDER but I AM VERY HAPPY NOW WITHOUT YOU."
