subject: Save Marriage Book - 6 Unavoidable Issues In Marriage [print this page] Marriage is not a constant happinessMarriage is not a constant happiness. Common marriage problems can happen anytime with no warning.
Even if marriage on the first few years is like a heaven sent, it will unavoidably change and different personalities and interests are all noticed and observed. Their personality, attitudes, temper, habits and lifestyle will no longer be a secret but will become a part of the acceptance to married life. However, there are certain changes we need to take for the sake of the relationship, and change even on the worst times. At some point in the relationship, there are times that we are unaware that we become selfish, immature, impatient and careless, and all these must be recognized and should be worked out for change.
If we are asked to enumerate all the common marriage problems experienced by both husband and wife, then we can compile a book to do it. The amount of problems are immeasurable. This is so common to married life since two different people with different interest and personalities come together to live as one.
Here are the following problems:
1. Misunderstanding. Misunderstanding is the very common cause of argument in marriage. This problem is about not being able to meet halfway; each side has her own principle to believe in. The couples have different ideas, predicaments, and views and even the need for listening is disregarded.
2. Conflicts with in-laws.Some couples are staying on their in-laws while looking for a house or apartment to rent. This also considered a problem at some point because sometimes, parents are becoming so supportive of the couples to the point of making decisions for them. Your in-laws may even be so intrusive when you have children with you. Your in-laws may make you feel that you have no capacity to decide for your family. There are also in-laws who do not care at all with you.They do not spend quality time with their grandchildren and to the couples.
3. Money problems. Financial problem is also a big problem for the couples especially when one has no work and the other one is earning but not enough to sustain family's needs. Problems such as supplies of foods, water, and payment for electricity and house maintenance, or if you have children, school payments and other are also a big problem with money that can trigger conflicts.
4. Priority conflicts. There are couples that work 24 hours/day and 7 days a week without spending much time for the children and to each other. Stress from working full time is stressful so it can make you forget your priorities inside home.Lost of time to reconnect can cause damage to the married life.
5. Sex Problem. Stress from work, lack of time and less communication can contribute to loss of interest in having sexual connection together. Unable to catch perfect time can also lead to sex problem. So when you are active and well-energized and your spouse is exhausted, you cannot just ask him to make love with you.
6. Problems with indifferences. Couples are 2 people with different interests, views and principles. The husband loves Italian foods while the wife loves to eat vegetables. They can differ on how they spend their weekend, one likes movie marathon and the other one loves baking. You also have different personalities.
The common marriage problems are part of life of both husband and wife. So even if problems can totally change the relationship, couples can still reconnect in such a way that they will learn together to compromise.The couples have to realize that when they have one goal, one vision and one plan, they will have the best on their relationship.If you know and believe you are totally different, work on those differences and make a change. Allowing more similar interests to invade in the relationship can bring out the best in both of you.
