subject: Get Your Ex Back - But Get the Timing Right [print this page] Get Your Ex Back - But Get the Timing Right
Following a break up it is human nature that you will miss each other and this remains true even if the break up was acrimonious and especially true if the relationship had lasted more than a year. The memories you shared together can trigger strong emotions and soon you will tend to be selective with the past, blocking out some of the worst times and remembering only the good times.
So if your ex has begun flirting with you and you want to respond do not simply jump back into the relationship. Initially play hard to get but get the balance correct, you do not want to lose your ex by showing a complete lack of interest but a slightly cool approach will ensure that they maintain their interest.
It is important now to establish whether or not your ex is playing a game, you may want to get back with your ex but any games must be played under your rules. Does your ex seem really genuine in their attempt to get you back, try countering their suggestions with some of your own and if the response is positive you have established a sound platform and put yourself in the driving seat.
I cannot overstress the importance of that last point because when your relationship ended you probably found you had lost your identity, you had been labelled as someone's partner or spouse but remember you are YOU and it is this person you need to re-establish. So become you again and take the reins.
This is not to say that you should not be insensitive to your partner and their needs, a strong relationship is built on a willingness to compromise but this strong partnership should consist of two interesting people who have developed interests outside of their partner.
Once you are comfortable with yourself and have confidence in your self you can begin to feel confident about your relationship and decide it is time to get your ex back. If you had jumped straight back in you would have appeared too keen but by holding off you become more attractive to your ex because you have established a status that says you are unavailable.
So take your time, begin to show that you are also interested but make sure you ex is genuinely interested in getting back with you as you do not want to be hurt again. I hope you enjoyed reading this article, if so you will certainly enjoy reading of thousands of couples in troubled relationships who have benefited greatly from the Magic of Making Up, you can get this through the links below.
Thank you for taking time to read this article I wish you many years of happiness.
