subject: For Them, Divorce May Feel Like the Whole World Just Fell Apart [print this page] For Them, Divorce May Feel Like the Whole World Just Fell Apart
Is your family going through a divorce right now? Do you know someone is does? If yes, then you have to know that there are a few important things about feelings you need to remember.
First of all, it's normal to feel lots of different things, includinganger,fear, andsadness. You feel them because you are affected by what is happening to your family right now. Probably, the thoughts that you will be left alone or that you are the cause of the divorce also bother you.
Second, even though it may seem like your whole world just fell apart, with time, things will be better again. It maybe a clich, but it works. Life from now on might be a bit different, but the pieces will come back together again maybe even sooner than you think.
While going through all this, there are ways to deal with the feelings you have. If you are really mad, you can punch a pillow, kick boxes, go hit a baseball, or run to some open field as long and as fast as you can. You can do much more but remember to never take your feelings out on another person. This won't do any good or relief either.
You can also try talking about it with someone. If you feel angry, let it out. Spilling it out is much better that just keeping those hard feelings to yourself or acting grouchy or irritable. Sometimes just talking to someone else is already big relief.
If you have a friend whose parents are divorcing, you can help by being a good listener when your friend wants to talk. Divorce is never easy and you will need all the comfort you can get.
Sometimes the feelings kids have about their parents' divorce are so strong that kids have a hard time concentrating on anything else in their life. When kids are very sad, mad, or worried, they may have trouble paying attention in class, focusing onhomework, or even remembering what they've just read. If this happens, you may need to get some help for your child.
Kids may feel much better after talking to atherapist, counselor, or social worker. These people are trained to talk with people about their problems and help with feelings that are too intense..
But what better support children can have than the one from their parents. Though the divorce process will take a long time and much work, parents must not forget about their children. They should help their kids gradually adjust to the situation and understand why the divorce needs to happen.
