subject: Getting Back Together, How To Avoid A Common Mistake [print this page] Getting Back Together, How To Avoid A Common Mistake
For all of the lonely, sad, and frustrated exes out there, let me give you some advice for getting back together with your ex by avoiding a very common mistake.
Thinking you can win back your ex by reviving the passionate and physical chemistry that you had in your previous relationship before addressing and repairing communication problems that aided in the downfall of the relationship.
Wrong, friend. When a serious relationship goes bad due to lack of communication, you will know it sooner than later because the passionate and physical chemistry between you will begin to show signs of a break down. Whether you are male or female, your partner begins to distance himself or herself by showing signs of not wanting to be intimate, not wanting you to hug them, or even not wanting to hold your hand. This red flag should be an immediate wake-up call to you. Trying to force the passionate and physical aspects of your relationship onto your ex in hopes of re-igniting the flame, will more than likely backfire big time. The reason for this is because your ex will interpret your actions as a sign of desperation and this sense of desperation will only escalate the issue and cause your ex to want to become more distant, thus hurting your chances of ever getting back together.
A better approach is to communicate with each other without the emphasis on passion and physical chemistry. Show your ex that you're really interested and care about what's on their mind, what there thinking, how they feel about things. Show your ex that you really are a good listener and that they can feel comfortable talking with you. Show your ex that you can still be friends first and you can be a good sounding board when they need a friend to talk to about issues or concerns they may have. Let your ex know that you're there for them like a friend would be. Once your ex realizes that you can have conversations like friends would, without being passionate or physical the wall between you will start to come down. And in time your ex will start to think of you more as an asset in life rather than a burden, start to remember the way things were, start to look at you differently, start to get closer once again through friendship and companionship. As the wall your ex has built between you comes down the passion and chemistry you had will start to return naturally and the possibilities of getting back together will increase, however this process takes time. How much time no one knows but it will be worth it.
Getting back together with an ex and re-lighting the fire and passion you once had is a serious business. Many people try and fail because they're flying solo and don't have a plan. Don't you be one of them.
