subject: Wedding Night Sex Tips For Virgin Brides [print this page] So you're a hard-line believer in chastity and have managed to keep your hymen intact until you meet the "one", congrats for choosing a path that so few dare travel.
But the one challenge faced by brides-to-be who are also virgins is the uncertainly regarding the wedding night when they face the possibility of a sexual encounter that could result in them loosing their virginity.
Such fear can be incapacitating but that's not how things should be.
Below are tips on how to ease things a little for yourself during the wedding night.
Talk to your partner about their feelings
Find a quiet moment to ask your soon-to-be-spouse what his feelings are about the wedding night?" Odds are, he or she will be relieved to have the opportunity to talk about it.
Feel free to talk about your hopes and fears. If your partner has sexual experience or you want to prevent pregnancy, talking about safer sex is essential. You may want to visit a counselor, or talk about sex during your pre-wedding counseling.
Communicate during sex
The most important sex tip for being a great lover is to learn how to communicate in bed. For nervous first timers, it might seem more natural to stay silent; dirty talk can be intimidating. Try saying, "That feels good" or just moaning a little when you like something.
Will I bleed? Will it be painful?
When a woman loses her virginity, it is possible for it to be a little bloody or painful. However, it shouldn't last for too long, and it is almost never very serious. To make things easier, make sure there's plenty of foreplay before you try penetration. You'll also want to have a good lubricant.
Use lubricant that is safe with latex and also glycerin free. Even if you use a lubricated condom, you'll want to use extra lube. And, if you're afraid of bleeding on the hotel sheets, bring a towel with you, or your own sheets.
Will he be able to maintain an erection? What happens if he can't?
The pressure of the wedding night can be too much for many men. If things aren't working, try to change up the mood. Spend some time kissing, and fondling each other.
Perhaps make a game out of how many different body parts you can kiss, or be a little more serious by talking about the wedding, your love for each other, and milestones ahead of you.
Will I be any good? How can I wow my new husband or wife?
Sex, like most things, takes practice. You are likely to be a little clumsy and to feel a little goofy. Take things slowly, and try to listen to your partner. Find out what feels good, and what doesn't.
Don't be afraid to ask! But don't concentrate on how mind-blowing (or not!) the physical feelings are. Instead try to be gentle with one another, and focus on how amazing it is to finally be in each other's arms as a married couple.
