subject: Can You Really Find the Perfect First Date? [print this page] Can You Really Find the Perfect First Date?
There are always ideas and myths about how that first date should go off without a hitch. That the pressure of the first date being the make it or break it of all dates to be had in the future. This is something that causes a lot of tension and stress and performance anxiety for both men and women. When do you slow down, take a deep breath and compromise?
Obviously there are going to be some truths to going out on a first date. This is where you will have the opportunity to learn about the other person. Find out about whom they are, what they stand for, and what is they are looking for in a dating relationship as well. And, no, if you don't have much in common, found yourselves disagreeing than maybe there shouldn't be a second date, but there are ways to know this without creating the perfect first date.
When a person stresses themselves out to create the first date and make it special and perfect, than there are things that will go wrong. Working yourself up to a point where you no longer are looking forward to the date will only create more stress, and there is always the possibility of resentment towards the person they are planning the date with.
Where do you start to compromise? At what point do we realize that HEY we are NOT perfect and there for we do not need the perfect man or woman to stand beside us? A date is meant to show the other person, who you are, what you stand for, and to go out and have a good time. It is not meant to create a false identity or fantasy to later create disappointment. We want the second date to match the first.
If you try an online matchmaker service, than we can see why a first date would need to be fairly perfect, but remember, you set the standards for who he or she expects you to be from that first date on. Be sure that you are true to yourself in order to show that other person who you truly are on the inside and out. Use that first date to introduce yourself to them, and in return take great interest in learning who they are and what they are about as well.
