subject: Getting Back Together - How to Tell if My Ex is Interested [print this page] Getting Back Together - How to Tell if My Ex is Interested
Does your ex boyfriend or girlfriend try to flirt with you? Do they seem more interested in you lately? Have they even hinted at the possibility of going out with you again? If so, don't jump to conclusions just yet! There are at least three ways to tell if your ex is interested in getting back together with you.
First, you should always play it cool. Moderation is the key. You should jealously guard your time spent in getting back together in the beginnings of this process. Don't behave like you're starving for attention (hungry for love) and can't wait for the moment of getting back together.
Wrong move! Your ex will most likely respond to your coolness, not your hunger. Hunger, when it comes to getting back together, presents itself as immature and clingy. It makes the other person start to feel claustrophobic (they feel trapped), like they cannot breath.
In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she might be entertaining the idea of getting back together, the odds are, it was you playing it cool that led to the renewed interest in the first place. Don't be ugly to them; always be nice and not too talkative. Just be cool (not pushy). This is precisely what you want to do at this point.
Second, you are counting on a very natural event here to aid in your quest of getting back together the sense of loss. Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a sensation of loss. There is a period of intensely missing one another. Somebody will be longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. The chances are good that your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what. Why? It is because of the many memories you shared together during this extended period of time.
In addition, there are other emotions that come into the picture. These will surely include feelings of regret and the uneasy notion that if you continue down the road you are on you will completely "miss the boat" and ruin the rest of your life by not getting back together. These feelings are normal and can be healthy if you use them in a positive and mature way.
Besides, the odds are that your ex is thinking about getting back together with you for the same reasons. After all, your ex is human too. There was obviously some good chemistry between the two of you that brought all of this into being in the first place. It is that "good chemistry" that you want back into your life and it is vital in your goal of getting back together.
Thirdly, you must stop and listen carefully to your heart. It is very important for you to discern the truth about your situation right now. Ask your heart this question: Can all of this be a game? Is it possible that my ex is immature enough to merely want my attention (an ego pump) without really getting back together? Do they have other prospects on the horizon? Is it possible that they would try to get revenge by slipping under your radar, getting close and then hurting me on purpose? Be careful and guard your heart. Listen to your innermost voice. Always follow the truth, discern your situation and remember not to jump the gun.
Indeed, moderation is the best answer when it comes to getting back together. This is a huge matter of the heart. Take your time and listen to the wind (so to speak). You cannot control another person and you cannot read their mind. However, if you wait and take things carefully, over time you can see what you need to see and good things can become reality in your life. Good luck and good love.
