subject: Save My Relationship In Crisis How Can I Do This Without My Spouse? [print this page] "How can I Save my relationship in crisis" is a really difficult question to answer when your marriage is crumbling around you. There are certain things that you can act upon to try to save your relationship; such as, attend marriage guidance counselling or self help sessions, but these generally require both partners to want to save your marriage. However, let me pose a very possible dilemma! What if you are the only party who desperately wishes to save your marriage, is there a way that you can do this?
If you and your partner have little or no communication, and you are asking the question "How can I do this without my spouse? Then you may be surprised to know that there are still actions that you can put in place today to start to turn your marriage around, even when communication reaches zero! In order to do this you have to do something quite radical, and that is to change the way that you think about your situation, your marriage, and above all, your life at the moment!
From now on you will need to think rationally and above all positively, if you have any chance of saving your relationship in crisis. Any decisions that you make from now on must not be emotion driven; however hard this may be. This is because it is so easy to blurt out something in the heat of the moment that we don't mean to say. We've all done it at some time or another, but in this situation, you simply cannot afford to! So here's what you can do.
Firstly you need to focus on yourself (not in a selfish way but in a reflective way) Think about what you can do to be a better partner and start to put these processes into practise. Then think about your partner. It is so easy to focus on the negative aspects of your spouse, but remember what it was that first attracted you to them. Also remember what good things they have bought to the relationship, and bear these thoughts in mind. Doing these things and applying them will put you in a positive mindset of getting your marriage back on track. Once your partner sees that you have changed to become that "can do" type of person, this will evoke a positive response from them.
You see, it's really all about taking action! Any positive action on your part will result in that positive reaction from them. If you can "clean up your side of the street" so to speak, then this really puts the onus on them to do the same. It's not about being needy and pleading with your partner to save your marriage, as this will only succeed to push your spouse even further away. Nor is it about trying to make your partner jealous by flirting outrageously with anything on two legs. It's about respecting your partner and above all respecting yourself.
If you can put these things into action through this difficult time, then you just might start to turn your relationship around. However, this is just the tip of the iceberg. Your relationship crisis wasn't something that happened overnight and it cannot be fully repaired overnight.
