subject: I Need To Fix A Sexless Marriage How To Re-ignite The Passion [print this page] Living without sexual intimacy in a marriage can be very hard. Sex is often a large part of the marriage and if it's not there, then the marriage or relationship can feel hollow or empty. If you are living in a marriage without sex and you are shouting out in desperation "I need to fix a sexless marriage" then you probably need to find answers, and you need to find them fast.
One of the reasons that a sexless marriage exists is that there maybe some ongoing deep rooted problems between you and your partner. These problems can manifest themselves in different ways and one of these ways is to avoid sexual intimacy with that partner. This problem or conflict needs to be addressed and resolved, either by using a marriage counsellor or self help before any headway with a sexless marriage can take place.
Quite often a change of dynamic takes place within a marriage, whether that be, for example, the onset of children, or a change of career. With this comes the added pressure of money worries such as mortgage payments and bills. Couples soon become engrossed in the daily grind and this then becomes a viscous cycle. Although routine is important, it is also important to be spontaneous and to create some "me time" away from all the challenges that married life throws at you. So maybe once a month, get somebody to babysit the kids, and go out on a date like you used to. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money. For example you could pack up a picnic and travel to the countryside or beach. This will get you out of your normal environment and you will find spending quality time together, will get you enjoying each others company again.
If you want to get your partner back being intimate, then try making the first move. It may well have been that in the past you have spurned the advances of your partner and this may well have had a significant effect on their libido. So try to chase them like they once chased you. People always enjoy the thrill of the chase, and in this case it may well be the spark needed to fix a sexless marriage.
Another thing you might want to look at is that your partner might feel a little self conscious. They may have piled on a few pounds lately, and don't feel comfortable about it. If you think that this may well be the case, then don't make a big thing about it. Instead you might suggest that the family start eating more healthily. Or even that you have decided to join a gym and ask if your partner would accompany you. This way your partner will not feel so conscious, you will both feel fitter and you get to spend some time together.
These are just a few actions that you can start to put in place today to mend your relationship; however this is just the tip of the iceberg. If you are really serious about putting right your marriage, then there is still much more you can do.
