subject: I Need Marriage Saving Advice 3 Tips You Really Need To Know! [print this page] If your marriage has hit crisis point and really want to fight to keep your marriage, then you are probably shouting out "I need marriage saving advice!" If this is the case, then you need to find answers and you need to find them now! So if you truly want to act quickly, there are several actions that you can apply starting today, which might begin to turn your marriage around! Here are 3 tips you really need to know.
One of the first things that you need to do is to listen to your partner. I don't just mean to hear them talking, but instead, really listen to what they have to say! Talk to them and find out how they are feeling and more specifically, what they are feeling. You then need to take on board what they are telling you, even though it may well be something that you do not want to hear. It is really important that you let them finish what they have got to say, without answering back.
Once you have listened to what they have to say, and taken it all in, you need to take action. It may well be that you need to change your ways. For example, when was the last time that you paid your partner a true compliment? You might interpret it that you dont need to tell them how much you love them because you think that they already know. After all, you have been married 10 years and never even so much as looked at another man or woman. Is that not reason enough to show them that you love them? In truth, we all like a little reassurance in our lives, and just a quick "I love you" or " I really appreciate what you do for me" goes a long way. Once you start to change the little things about you, then your partner will appreciate that you have listened and taken on board what they have told you.
Another action you must take if your goal is to get your marriage back on track is to make sure that you put your partner's needs before yours. It is way too easy as you get into a relationship, to take each other for granted. Dynamics often change within marriage, such as the onset of children, new jobs and careers etc, therefore your responsibilities become greater. Finding the time to do the fun things that you used to is near on impossible. However, it is imperative that you do whatever it takes to find that time, so that you can be one on one with your partner. You need to make your spouse feel like they are the most important thing in your life right now. Take them out on a date again! It doesn't have to cost a lot of money. In fact, quite often the simple things in life are more effective. For example, packing up a picnic and going to the beach or countryside for the afternoon, with food that you have prepared, would probably make more of a impact than if you booked a table at some swanky downtown restaurant, and spent a small fortune. Do these things, but above all, take time out to tell your partner how much you appreciate them. What you will find is that they will see you in a different light and respond to you more positively.
These are some of the actions that will help to start to turn your marriage around that you can apply today. However this is just the tip of the iceberg. Your marriage didn't get into this situation overnight and it cannot be fully repaired overnight.
