subject: How to Judge Whether You Are in a Toxic Relationship [print this page] How to Judge Whether You Are in a Toxic Relationship
Are in a toxic relationship? You will not like to believe that you are in one. But what if you are in one such. Use the following tests (I have used the masculine pronoun to refer to the partner. But the statements are equally applicable, if you are a man and your partner is a woman!)
* Does your partner snide you when others are present? If he does, then his action doesn't back up his statement that he loves you.
* Your partner tries to make you dependent on him. This is assign of arrogance and domination which is incompatible with love.
* Your partner tries to control by invading your privacy through acts like reading your mail or checking on you, by showing himself at places or times he is least expected and spinning an excuse for his presence.
* You have changed things about yourself to please them and you are not happy about the changes you have made, though you might have tried to deceive yourself that these changes were made on your own volition.
Once you are convinced that you are in a toxic relationship, you should decide to come out of it quick. And the first step in getting out of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices.
The next step is to start standing up for yourself. The toxic partner might have made you believe that it is all your fault. Break this belief and decide that the boot is on the other leg and that you can either walk away from the relationship or set new limits that can heal the relationship.
Of the people who break the cycles of toxic relationships, some s leave the relationship and form new, healthier bonds, while others are able to repair their relationship and stay in it. Many relationships can be salvaged. But both partners should make an attempt to renew the bonds in a healthy way.
A healthy relationship is a two way street. In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way. You have the power to change that, but you must take the power into your own hands.
