subject: Relationships? You Are Not Alone [print this page] Relationships? You Are Not Alone Relationships? You Are Not Alone
In no uncertain terms your boyfriend dumped you. Like many others who have been in your situation you are wondering what to do next and how can you get him back. You are one of thousands who have been in similar circumstances.
Eventually your situation will improve regardless of whether or not you do get back together. However if you're caught up in the heartache of the breakup then you do deserve time to mourn the loss and then decide upon your next plan of action.
If you find yourself still in love with him then you don't want to accept that it may be over. Even if he was the one having second thoughts about the relationship which precipitated the breakup there is still hope you can win him back. In cycles of relationships there is a constant occurrence of people breaking up. The reasons for the frequency might be something other then what you expect. If you are only guessing the reasons why your boyfriend dumped you it would serve you better to be sure of the reason which would make the odds greater of you getting him back.
Have you even asked him? If not, you need to. However you must be able to handle the real truth. Often deep down inside we really know but it is not an easy thing to acknowledge. If your emotions are too fragile to handle it then perhaps you should concentrate on moving forward without working on the past. However if it means the relationship is stuck in the past you'll have to find a way to face the challenge. Once you have heard the truth accept it for what it is. The only choice you have is to agree.
Your next step is to find out if he thinks the relationship is worth saving. He may have seen the issues as insurmountable but you feel as though there is a solution that can be worked out. If he senses you are sincere in your desire to work them out then he will be more inclined to begin again the relationship again. No one likes to face the fact they have been dumped.
Getting back together begins with open communication. Once you are at the point where you are comfortable talking face to face you will be able to ascertain if you can work things out. In the end you will know if it is the best decision. You may decide things are better off left alone. Eventually you will come to grips with it. If you need to spend time with some trusted girlfriends for treat yourself to a massage or service where you indulge in being pampered.
You are not alone and many people have survived the very same circumstances.
