subject: Will He Come Back if I Ignore Him? Win Back Your Ex with the No Contact Rule [print this page] Will He Come Back if I Ignore Him? Win Back Your Ex with the No Contact Rule
Will he come back if I ignore him? You've been wondering about this, haven't you? There's so much information about the no contact rule and how well it works when it comes to regaining a man's attention. You're skeptical though. You can't imagine cutting off all contact with a man you're so crazy about. Won't he meet someone else in the meantime? Will he misinterpret what you're doing and jump to the conclusion that you don't want him anymore? These are all very legitimate questions and once you understand exactly why this approach works so well to win back a man's heart you'll be left with little doubt about whether or not it's the right move for you.
The premise behind the no contact rule is just as it sounds. For the duration of the time you choose to enforce it you're going to ignore your ex. That means you won't be the one initiating contact with him. You're not going to call him or accidentally run into him at the local coffee bar. Instead, you're going to make a conscious effort to avoid him at all costs. Most women find it most effective if they do this for minimum two weeks, although you may have to continue it for a bit longer.
The reason this does actually work is fairly simple. If you are constantly in contact with your ex boyfriend once the break up has occurred he's going to continually be reminded of why he ended things. He's going to feel justified in his decision to split with you and he'll never change his mind about that. The more you reach out to him, the farther he'll pull away. You probably have already noticed this occurring in your relationship with him now.
All men dream of being with someone who is mature and emotionally stable. They also secretly long for a woman who plays a little hard to get. Even though you and he have already been in a relationship, you can become these things. If you don't chase after him, you'll be showing him that you're not his anymore. Once a week or two passes and there's absolutely no word from you, he'll be forced to face the reality that you may no longer want him. Suddenly you've gone from a clingy ex girlfriend to a desirable woman he has to chase after to capture. Once this happens the ball is squarely in your court and you have the upper hand.
