subject: How To Cope After Your Marriage Ends In Divorce [print this page] We are living in an era where far too many marriages are ending up in divorce. Whether you're the one who's at fault or not, divorce is emotionally challenging and mentally draining. Divorce changes our lives and depending on how we choose to deal with it, it can have a very devastating impact on our lives and the lives of those around us. As traumatic as divorce can be it's important that you keep a positive attitude and look up to a new and brighter future. Here are a few tips that are helpful when it comes to coping with divorce.
1. If the emotional stress is too much for you to bear don't be ashamed to get professional help from a skilled counselor who is experienced in the stages and process of divorce, in order to help you cope.
2. As tempting as it may be to lock yourself up and throw a pity party for yourself, don't isolate your self, surround yourself with friends and family and get involved in social activities. This will help lift your spirit up.
3. When you loose some of your mutual friends as a result of the divorce don't take it personal. It's only normal that some of your friends might have a conflict of interest, and have a loyalty to your ex, especially if they knew your ex first.
4. You've got to learn to let it go. Life is too short for you to spend on holding on to past hurt, pain, bitterness, resentment and regret. Just move on and remember that this too shall come to pass and in time you'll learn to love again.
5. Don't use food, alcohol or drugs as a way to numb your pain. That's just a temporary fix that causes more harm than good. Drinking or eating away your problems doesn't ease the pain and make the problem go away. It just creates more problems such as obesity, alcoholism and drug addiction.
6. Loneliness can be a tough thing to deal with; while it's tempting to try to fill the void don't jump into a new relationship too quickly. You've got to give yourself time to heal. Simply jumping into the next available relationship on the rebound will not help matters at all; it only just complicates them even more.
7. Encourage and support your children's relationship with the other parent, never badmouth the other parent and don't force your children to decide where they want to live. This puts them in a very awkward position and makes them feel like they have to take sides, which leaves them with feelings of guilt.
8. Your children need support from you, and sometimes you might even need to provide them with some outside help such as therapy.
