subject: A Guide to Playing Hard to Get - Get Him Hooked for Good! [print this page] A Guide to Playing Hard to Get - Get Him Hooked for Good!
Are you clumsy when it comes to playing hard to get? Is it too complicated finding that balance of holding back and giving forth? Are you simply the type of girl who likes to be frank and honest and you tell the guy exactly how you're feeling all the time? A lot of women feel uncomfortable with the thought of playing hard to get. Some just don't have the hang of it while others feel it's deceitful or manipulative. Read on to see how important it is to a relationship and how to do it right.
Let's forget about calling it playing hard to get. What if you were to call it, hang on to your goodies until you really know this guy.
In effect, that's what playing hard to get should mean to you. When you first meet a guy, you know literally nothing about him. Is it wise to then hang on his every word? To give him your phone number? To accept going home with him?
So on a date you learn that he seems like a nice guy with a few good qualities but this is just the surface. What's really going on inside him? Only time will tell. So continue to hold back and only allow yourself to open your heart to him in small increments as he earns it.
When he calls for a date, don't instantly jump to say yes. But beware of being obvious in your way of turning him down. If he feels you're simply playing a game, it can be a huge turn off. You want him to know you genuinely have something that keeps you from seeing him. Whether that's a prior engagement or simply your uncertainty is up to you.
Now what is all this doing to him?
The fact that you're holding back rather than jumping at the chance to be with him tells him that you're not in a desperate need to get involved in a deep relationship and that's a good thing. Learning more about you increases his interest level, while your reticence to become involved keeps him seeking ways to get closer to you.
A lot can be said for a man's need to be challenged. Men want to know they've earned your affection. They want to prove that they are the best man for you. There's something rather validating about knowing that a woman can be so unattainable and yet, with work and time, he manages to attain her.
That's the best prize.
Playing hard to get really isn't child's play. It's really your way of telling a guy that you're worth it. If he's willing to put in the time to win you over, then he's telling you that he's the man you want in your life. You both win.
