subject: Getting Back With Your Ex - 11 Errors Women Make in Relationships [print this page] Getting Back With Your Ex - 11 Errors Women Make in Relationships
He's back in your life and you finally have what you've always wanted: getting back with your ex boyfriend. But wait, you say you're afraid you might mess up again thus repeating the heart wrenching breakup experience?
Never fear, the 11 deadly mistakes women often make in relationships are here. They will guide you to make your second chance long and lasting.
1. The Hackers. Learn to trust ladies, because looking for suspicious messages in his phone and email doesn't exactly scream "I trust you".
2. Jumping to conclusions. If you think something is going on, at least give him the benefit of a doubt. Don't skip calmness and go straight to yelling. Jumping to conclusions is not the best way to get to the bottom of things.
3. Thinking he likes what you like. You have separate interests: he likes sports and tools and cars and you like other hobbies. So don't expect him to like everything that you like. Besides, it's nice to have your own thing, so just grab a friend and don't pressure him to do something he wouldn't enjoy.
4. Great Expectations. While it's nice to be romantic, this isn't a fairy tale so don't expect too much and then be disappointed later on.
5. Not being honest with your issues. If you're mad at him because he ate the last slice of chocolate cake then tell him that. Don't make it bigger and say something like he doesn't care about you and this is a commitment issue.
6. Dropping friends. This is a no-no. Friendship and romantic relationship are two different things, and friends have always been there for us with or without romantic relationships. This simply means have a balance of both.
7. Being too dependent. Don't always rely on your knight in shining armor to do the saving for you. Sometimes, you have to save yourself and fix your life.
8. Denying the problem. You've learned the hard way that saying "no, nothing's wrong" is not the best way to solve relationship issues. So this time, talk about your feelings before it's too late.
9. Silence. Your man is not a mind reader, so the silent treatment is not the best way to express yourself and get what you want.
10. Thinking you can get away without compromise. Wrong. Having a great relationship requires compromise, otherwise it will just be one big mess of arguments.
11. Too many questions. Getting back with your ex means getting the trust and love back as well. So what's with all the questions? Why didn't he call me the moment his plane landed? Why didn't he...why would he...? Over-analyzing kills trust, and will probably drive both of you crazy.
