subject: He's Not Sure He Wants to Be with You – What to Do When Your Man Tells You This [print this page] He's Not Sure He Wants to Be with You What to Do When Your Man Tells You This
You're in a relationship with a man you absolutely adore and he's not sure he wants to be with you. Ouch. That's painful. When the man you love tells you that he's uncertain or he's just not sure about what he's feeling, you can almost feel your heart breaking. You envision a break up on the horizon and a future alone longing for the one and only man you've ever truly loved. How you handle yourself during this time is crucial to the future success of the relationship. You can actually change his uncertainty to loving devotion if you know how.
When he says he's not sure he wants to be with you, you really have to temper your reaction. You're going to be overwhelmed and it's likely to show through in your actions. It's common for a woman in this situation to cry, beg and plead with her man. It's also understandable for you to question him about what you did wrong. To you this all seems reasonable but to him it seems over the top. If you are unable to control your emotions during this time, he'll label you as pathetic. Once that happens the chances of you being able to salvage the relationship aren't all that good.
Here's a better approach for you to take when your guy says he's not sure he wants to be with you. Stay calm and in control of what you're feeling. Try your best to hide your tears from him and don't launch into yelling at him in an effort to get him to change his mind. Presenting yourself as emotionally mature enough to handle what he's feeling is essential to keeping him.You've also got to give him a taste of his own medicine when he tells you he's confused about what he's feeling. Instead of trying to spend more and more time with him in an effort to convince him you actually are the woman for him, let him go. Tell him that you're also a little unsure and you feel a break might be the best thing. It's going to be very difficult to say this to him but it may just be the saving grace of the relationship. If you show him that you're not going to wait endlessly for him to decide whether or not you're the woman for him, it will push him into realizing that the fate of the relationship doesn't rest solely in his hands. That may just be enough to get him to see that losing you is a very real possibility.
