subject: Marriage Is In Trouble - 12 Red Flags For A Troubled Marriage [print this page] How would you really assess that your marriage is in trouble? There are a lot of issues facing both the husband and the wife regarding their married life. These are issues that can cause great damage to the relationship.
Marriage is a sacred bond promised by 2 parties to love each other for the rest of their lives. The true test of marriage is measured on time being spent together facing problems while keeping the relationship intact. On the first few years, married life for the couple is like on the honeymoon stage, savoring the moment of love and connection. When the couples move along on the middle stage of relationship, the negative and positive personalities are then observed. As such, it can be one of the reasons of argument between the two, it may just be an ordinary argument but it can stem to severe quarrels. When a spouse ask someone advices or tips on how to save a marriage, it is a big sign that there is something wrong in the relationship. So, how will the couple assess that their marriage is in extreme crisis? Now you will be seeing below the following red flags indicating that marriage is in trouble.
1. Your no longer find your partner as lovely as before, and you feel irritated with him/her.
2. The arguments have become a routine in marriage.
3. There are no intimate closeness between husband and wife.
4. There is a drastic change of your spouse's physical appearance; he/she is now much more concern with how he/she looks.
5. You have different interests; you like to travel, and your spouse wants to go to the beach.
6. You don't sleep together.
7. Each of your mistakes are used as a bullet when arguing.
8. Married life is no longer a commitment.
9. Both of you are not concern anymore about how each other's day was.
10. You focus more on the flaws of your partner and become defensive when being noticed.
11. The marriage is no longer a two-way process.
12. Your partner is becoming too defensive when asked about where he came from or what he did in some place.
When one gets into marriage, the commitment shared must be expected to be complex. Marriage is not like a dress, that when it is already out of style, you are going to sell it. I say, marriage is not at all happy times. It comes with tears and laughter at the same time that makes the marriage more exciting and an experience to learn to become better. No one can just leave a marriage behind. Signs that marriage is in trouble will give the couples idea of separation. Take time to talk with your partner, as much as possible and do counseling and respect each others view.As such, those warning signs would not happen if the couple from the very start deeply love each other and accept each one whole heartedly despite their indifferences and flaws.
