subject: All Talk And No Action – Is Lack Of A Sex Life Driving Your Spouse To Cheat [print this page] All Talk And No Action Is Lack Of A Sex Life Driving Your Spouse To Cheat
It's hard to envision exactly what could be driving your spouse to cheat for many people going through this. All sorts of questions, doubts, and fears come to mind immediately. One of the most often asked is whether or not having too little sex is a driving factor. Keep reading to learn how to decide if sex is a factor in your marital worries and what you can do to turn the tides in your favor.
Sex is important in marriages. For men, it's the physical expression of love. For women, it's an emotional bond she shares with her husband. Both sides need sex as part of the marriage and yet, the real world invades and couples find it much more difficult to meet the needs they each have in the bedroom.
There are many reasons that couples have a hard time connecting for the physical intimacy that is often lacking in relationships.
1) Work schedules.
2) Too many balls in the air.
3) Too tired.
4) Too busy.
5) Not interested.
6) Pain during intercourse.
7) And the list goes on and on.
Lack of sex, not enough sex, and total disinterest in sex is one of the most commonly cited problems (or sources of strife) in marriages today. It often has nothing to do with enjoying sex when it's happening or even with the level of attraction and love that's felt for the partner. More often than not it's just that the thought of sex after everything else that's gone on that day is exhausting.
So, how do you fix the problem so that you never need to worry about a lack of a sex life driving your spouse to cheat again?
1) See a doctor if there is pain involved in intercourse or if you suspect your disinterest may be physical or hormonal. It's important enough for the sake of your marriage to ask a few potentially embarrassing questions of your doctor. You are NOT going to shock your doctor with your questions.
2) Learn to delegate, cancel, and just say no if you have too many irons in the fire. There is no reason to over-commit yourself and risk burn out in your life and in your marriage.
3) Make your marriage a priority in your life. Your marriage and family should be the most important things in your world. If they aren't, it's time to reprioritize.
4) Just do it. Pencil it in two nights a week and just do it. It won't take you long to figure out it really isn't that inconvenient after all. Be creative, have fun, flirt, and do everything in your power to make those two nights a week turn into three or four.
