It is human nature to want to fall in love and the desire to want to spend the rest of one's life with someone. Basic questions are important to be answered at the start of a marriage like inquiring about your spouse's goals in life, ambitions, aspirations, number of children expected, and ways of how to keep the passion and how to keep the physical affection within the marriage.
WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OR SIGNS OF IMPENDING MARITAL DISASTER?
There are several signs of a marital break-up in which a man will evidently notice but woman will know by their intuition most times. If your spouse would much rather spend time at work, putting in overtime or playing golf with pals, this is a HUGE warning sign of an impending marriage disaster. Be proactive and creative in planning activities which you both can share so that you can rekindle the flames of romance that was previously there. If your spouse excludes you from their circle making you feel as though you are no longer are part of their world anymore it is a sign that a divorce is near. Before this painful moment of truth that your spouse is leaving you, there were probably signs of your spouse's departure beforehand. If your spouse no longer reacts to those critical spats that once held a significant value to them or is no longer the initiator of spats and arguments with you like they use to, then that is a definite sign that the marriage could be coming to an end.
WHAT WILL YOU TO DO WHEN YOU ARE AT THE BRINK OF MARRIAGE?
By trying to control your spouse or trying to talk your spouse into not leaving you, you may convince your spouse that they will never find anyone else who will love them more than you, which could backfire. Try using a different approach, the by ways are plentiful. Books aplenty are sold in your favorite bookstores. If you make a hasty decision you may look back later and wish that you had acted differently. They are the impulsive reactions of people who do not take time to think and assess their situations.
WHAT ARE COMMON EMOTIONS FELT WHEN THERE IS MARITAL CRISIS?
Infidelity does not mean that the marriage is over because surviving infidelity and healing your relationship is possible. You are faced with the problem of your spouse having an affair with another person.
WHAT ARE SOME HELPFUL GUIDELINES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE?
It does not matter who is right or wrong when you argue. Respect the privacy of your spouse. Always say, "please", "thank you" and other courteous words. Emotionally or physically abusing abuse a spouse will bring the day closer to disaster, when he/she will decide that enough is enough. Look for resources which can help you. Give your spouse space to grow and fulfill their dreams. There is history of unhappiness behind words and you cannot change history since a history of dissatisfaction has build up.
Each path must be treated differently because what is good for one may not be good for the other. Your kids will raise their own families and you are retired. When marriage is at the brink of disaster it is not the right time learn more communications skills, you new knowledge will only offer you the ability to use better words to fight more often. Myth 4. Things will not work out by themselves, you have to take a hand. What are some damaging myths about saving a marriage?
Myth 1. You will rely on time because it is a great healer.
