subject: Happiness In Marriage Comes From Within [print this page] Marriage alone will not make you happyMarriage alone will not make you happy. If you think marriage will solve your problems and bring you eternal bliss you are mistaken. If two unhappy people get married you are going to have an unhappy marriage. Being married may add to your happiness for a while, but eventually your marriage will not sustain itself if both individuals are not happy from within.
Happy marriages come from within. Joining in the union of marriage and committing to love another person is a joyous occasion. However, to be truly happy, both spouses need to be happy as individuals and as married partners first. If one spouse is unhappy with themselves and struggling from within, your marriage is going to be rough. That spouse needs to get able to feel satisfied with the individual they are and as a married partner for the marriage to be a truly happy one. Here are some recommendations on how to become a happier individual and create a happier marriage.
Start by liking yourself and being you. For those who have low self esteem this can be a difficult task. Low self esteem was instilled in you years before you met your spouse. It can be hard to overcome low self esteem, but a necessary challenge if you are struggling in your marriage. Have long talks with your spouse about possibly why you have a hard time liking yourself or viewing yourself as important and then find ways to feel important. One thing marriage particularly brings are countless opportunities to be needed. People with low self esteem issues often doubt themselves too. They are unsure whether the things they really thing or feel are valid and don't fell like they are contributing to their marriage.
If you do not have a spouse that can handle this kind of therapeutic regeneration you may need to find additional sources of support. Therapists are there to help all of us. There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing a professional for help. They have the tools to help us be better people and overcome deep rooted issues that we cannot conquer by ourselves or with the help of our spouse. Your spouse should not feel bad if they cannot give you all the help you need. Sometimes getting help from an external source if just what you need. If you feel comfortable, your spouse can also sit in with you during therapy sessions as a support and to learn how he or she can be of better help.
A healthy body will promote a healthy mind. Take care of your body. This means that you need to start eating right and exercising if you are not already doing so. The condition of our body has a great affect on the way we feel and how we feel about ourselves. If our body is getting the proper nutrients than it is better able to handle stress. When it is not getting fed properly hormone levels can change dramatically, the mind is not able to process as well, and our energy levels almost cease to exist.
Concentrate on the positive. Very often we concentrate on all our mistakes. We magnify them and think that we make more mistakes than the average person. The truth is, we all make about the same amount of mistakes in life. The difference is, some people choose to dwell on and magnify their mistakes and others simply learn from them and move on. Try, even for one day, to magnify only the positive things you do. Chances are you will see your countenance change for the better. You will feel better about your abilities and realize that the little mistakes are normal and don't require as much attention as the positive things you do.
Marriage can be very difficult when one or both spouses is already unhappy with themselves. Negativity spreads from within and out to the surrounding environment. The family unit becomes weaker and doubt and fear run rampant. Take care of yourself and get mentally and physically healthy for your marriage. Lasting happiness in marriage doesn't come from the state of being married, but only from the combined happiness of each spouse.
