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What brings two people closer together? How is a loving bond built to last? What does love need more than anything else to survive? Have your asked a couple happily married over forty years how they keep the love alive? You should and most likely when you ask them you'll hear one common answer that many young couples will even tell you.
When you want real love, you have to earn each other's heart and continue that honor until death parts you, that's why the vows ask you if you do. Love thrives on the basis of a friendship to be open and honest with one another and never apologizing for being ourselves. Friendship works when we stand by one another through thick and thin, bad days and great days. Love needs all of that to survive. To fall in love is to earn each other's heart.
The real key to earn each other's heart to fall in love lies within our support for one another. We have big dreams, little dreams, silly dreams, hard dreams, dangerous dreams, and career dreams but what gets us to go after our goals and make it through each failure and success is the people we have backing us up and encouraging each step.
We encourage each other to go after a Master's degree or travel to Europe and once in a while we have to convince him that jumping a motorcycle across the Grand Canyon is just stupid. You may hate the idea of him sky diving because it's very dangerous but when you can't talk him out of it, wait for him on the ground with your eyes closed. When you can support him through his dreams and be his biggest supporter no matter what, you earn his admiration and love.
Contrary to this generation's belief, sex doesn't get you love and in fact it can make things more complicated. The intimacy will come when the bond is strong enough to stand on its own. Sex too easily becomes lust when men take the emotions for granted and focus more on getting what they want physically. When the sex dwindles, their attention dwindles because they associated them as one instead of basing the relationship on emotions first and foremost. Let the sex happen after some time. Earn each other's heart first.
