subject: What to Do First For Getting Your Ex Back [print this page] What to Do First For Getting Your Ex Back
Have you had a recent breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you want to get them back? You should start somewhere. Remember, the first thing you do may work or may really mess things up. That's why you should pay close attention to these first steps.
The first step in to breathe deeply. Don't rush into anything. Remember that fools rush in. You may feel really bad, but taking a careful look at what has happened is a good first step. Things may really look hopeless in the beginning. It is, therefore, good to keep calm and see what has led you to this juncture.
This could let you take a look objectively at the situation. Avoid the mistake of letting your emotions get in the way. When feeling are running high and you feel hurt, things can quickly get out of hand and lead you down the wrong way. If you do something embarrassing, your ex may just feel justified in having broken up with you.
Also avoid quickly getting to apologies and making rash promises. To get your ex back, it is important not to overwhelm them with this kind of behavior. Giving them space will let them see if they are satisfied with the breakup.
But do let yourself go along with the breakup. This may shock your ex to see you as a mature person. This is not the same as saying that you wanted the breakup, too, but it is a way of letting them know that you are not going to go to pieces.
Once you have given your ex space, perhaps it is a good idea to drop them a line. Indicate that you are going along with the breakup and that you are giving your ex space to think things through. If it's possible, do say you are sorry for some of the things you ex may have brought up in the past. Do not get bogged down by details; just be amiable and sincere.
One good reason for this is to show that you remain calm and that you are willing to give your ex some space. With this kind of behavior, you don't use pressure, and this will make you look good in the end.
Breakups are not easy, especially in the beginning. But if you follow the first steps given here, you may succeed in getting back together with your ex in good time. Remember to remain calm and collected. Act like a mature person. And be patient. Learn more about Making and Patching Things Up, at Makin Up and claim your Free Special Report which is just packed full of information. Carlos Garcia has written a number of different articles on Mending and Patching Up and they can be found at Mend the Love
