subject: Tips On Helping You Get Back Together With Your Ex [print this page] Emotions run very high when break ups occurEmotions run very high when break ups occur. In fact many experts say most people are not thinking clearly, and people feel more stress than losing a loved one. With that said its easy to say and do things you will regret once all the emotions have calmed down some time later. Many people after a break up begin to have second thoughts about the break up.
Second thoughts that they wish never happened and hoping things could work out. But often this is not felt by the other party leaving one more heart broken and looking for ways to get back together. Its not easy to admit a mistake in relationships. Probably more so for men as they tend to be more stubborn in this regard. Will he/she forgive me? Will they take me back if I bring up getting back together again? What can i do get them back?
What many people don't know is that there are ways to get back together given you are not doing things to push them further away from you and losing the attraction they once had for you. So what can you do? That's the million dollar question right?
Here are a few tips that have proved to work for many people as they seek a solution to get back with an ex lover:
However, before we dive into these tips you should keep this in mind first. You should have good intentions and be committed, serious, and an understanding this might not happen overnight. People also often mistake feelings of jealousy or being lonely for wanting to be back together with an ex lover. So its best to take some extra time to make sure this is really what you want, and its not something due to being lonely or as a challenge of some sort of sick way.
Provide enough space
Avoid contact. Both of you need this not just your ex. Both of you need to feel what its really like without each other so using no contact in the beginning is crucial. If you are constantly contacting your ex, you aren't giving them reason to fear that they may have really lost you. It's that fear that will make them more receptive to giving things another try.
Look in the Mirror
Looking at yourself in the mirror and facing your own faults is difficult for anyone. Even if this reconciliation does not work out, its important you understand how you can be better in your relationships so you have success either now with your ex or with someone new in the future. If you do that you will just leave a trail of destruction that will cause you and your ex a lot of pain. Figure out what you need to change about you, and then make those changes.
Hang with friends and loved ones
After you have looked at yourself in the mirror and identified with the things you can improve so you don't carry those bad habits with you to the next relationship hang with friends and family. Its important you don't spend all this time in your home or apartment by yourself feeling sorry for yourself. This can lead to thoughts of "contact" which you're trying to avoid right now.
Hopefully these three tips on helping you get back together with your ex will be taken seriously. As they say "Rome was not built in a day" neither will your relationship.
