subject: The First Important Step To Save A Marriage Now [print this page] Whether you have been married for 1 year, 10 years or 30 years, it is extremely hard to admit that your marriage is in crisis. It is even harder to decide that it is time to save a marriage. If your marriage has been experiencing challenges and issues for a while now and you are feeling bogged down in the situation, believing that divorce is the quick answer to your problems, think again.
Nearly all marriages are worth fixing. It just seems so much more difficult to Initially admit that there are issues, to be able to talk about and analyze these problems and work on them. That really is intense work. Marriage failure can be turned around. All you need to do this is time, patience and commitment.
You will need to think deeply and honestly about yourself during the marriage repair process. The first thing that you need to ask yourself and that will help you decide if you should continue saving your marriage, is to decide if you have any love for your spouse any longer. If there is some love still there, you can work on the marriage problems. Often, the love that a husband and wife have is the only thing that they have left in common. If this is valid in your current marriage condition, then you really should give marriage repair a go.
Have a think about and remember how your marriage was before the difficulties and problems began. Reflect on the nice times, when you relished in your time together. A couple who used to be happy, can find that happiness once again if they wish to do the hard work. To do this you will need to make sure that you tackle the issues in the right way to achieve the best possible outcome.
Above all other advice you may receive, the most important advice is to be forever honest with yourself and your spouse. If you want to continue with the illusion and tell yourself that my marriage is healthy, when it is a fact plainly obvious to your family and friends that there are problems, the current marriage condition will not improve. In fact it will only deteriorate. Don't be scared to admit that your marriage may be in crisis. Once you can admit to and realize the issues in your marriage, the greater chance you have of being able to work through and past these issues. In fact almost half the work is done as soon as you can admit that yes, there is something wrong in your marriage.
The earlier you can admit that there is something wrong in your marriage and work through your feelings for your spouse, the sooner you can commence the work to repair your troubled marriage. If you can still feel some love for each other, then yes, it is worth all of the challenging work required in repairing your troubled marriage. Go back to the beginning, find the feelings of love by remembering how things were when they were good, and always be honest with each other. With this basic advice you can start working on repairing your marriage.
