subject: I have been fired. So what? [print this page] I have been firedI have been fired. So what?
Unfortunately some bosses aren't especially easy to get along or communicate with. This can often lead to a decision to fire an employee. Or sometimes other circumstances occur which result in this kind of choice. Whatever the reason, being fired is often a highly unpleasant experience for those who have to go through it. Here are some suggested ways of coping.
Don't feel bad if someone doesn't like you and don't even waste your time thinking about them.
Do something that makes YOU feel good, such as hanging out with friends for the night. Just take all that anger and stress energy and release it by having a good time.
Whenever you see your boss, don't give him/her dirty looks. Just avoid him.
When you see ex-coworkers, speak to them briefly, but try not to talk about being fired.
Be strong and get back on your feet. You will look pretty silly if you're weak and you spend day after day at home watching TV while not working. Re-make your resume and send it to a new place to work, even if you only plan to work there for a few months until you can find the best job for you.
If you ever just chat with your boss, ask about him/her and say as little as possible about you. Remember; don't act fake if you're going to act. Make yourself a real person with real personality do not be so uptight.
Learn not to feel as if being fired is such a horrible or embarrassing situation. Do not walk around with your head hanging down, fearful that someone will find you sitting at bus stop instead of being on the job. Many are fired for reasons other than their job performance or ability to function in the office environment. Often being fired is a blessing, as it actually enables you to get out of a rut and find a jobmore to your liking and better suited to your abilities.
Understand that many common reasons people get fired are often not as a result of the employee's own faults or behavior. The only major exceptions are situations where a person is fired for harassing or abusive behavior, or if a person has a history of repeatedly being fired or plain lazy and uncooperative. Even then, it is possible for a fired person to get another chance if he or she is confident and can make the appropriate (or strategic) changes in his or her approach to working life. If you are fired for one of the following reasons, you have been unlucky, but preparing for contingencies can help you move forward.
- Personality mismatch - You remained because of the money but actually you were not happy with the surroundings. The attitudes of the people around you were not compatible with yours. The work was repetitious and became boring, the staff was not friendly and the entire environment was not comfortable. Being fired is probably a blessing, as it frees you to search for employment that is a better match for your experience and personality.
- Skills mismatch - When you applied for the job you were not fully aware of the full responsibilities of the job or the potential hardships it contained. This might be because the person who hired you did not accurately judge whether your skills and experience would match the job description or was lax in making things clear enough. Another possibility is where the job duties were switched on you after you were hired. If so, while it did not work out, at least you tried. Think positive as you will have better luck elsewhere.
- Refusing to go along - Standing up for your beliefs refusing to be dishonest or to overlook faulty business practices and being fired for it is not a slur on you; you should be proud for standing up for what is right.
- Unreasonable - If you became pregnant or needed to take time off to tend to a sick child, and if you put in a request for a short leave of absence and were fired, it had nothing to do with you. Do not blame yourself. You might even be able to sue the company in this case for job discrimination.
Now you have been fired! So move your ass and find a new job!
