subject: Are you heading for a New Year Divorce? [print this page] Are you heading for a New Year Divorce? Are you heading for a New Year Divorce?
Earlier this year, a study found that the first working day after New Year is the most popular for putting forward petitions for divorce. The statistics revealed that 12 couples out of every 1,000 will face marriage problems and will go into the Christmas break on the verge of splitting up. Here are 10 ways to tell if your marriage is on the verge of coming to an end.
1. If you have a number of family gatherings you've been invited to over Christmas, and you avoid going to your partner's family events and they avoid yours.
2. If you feel that you're not being treated as well as you treat your partner. In other words, you're putting more in and getting less out.
3. If you are no longer intimate with your partner, it could be a very bad sign. Many couples find themselves sleeping in the same bed, but stop having sex.
4. If your discussions turn to arguments and rows too easily, often over issues that are trivial.
5. If you or your partner has become indifferent to the other, such as no longer kissing them goodbye or hello, not talking about your day, or having the passion to argue.
6. If you're not spending any time together and one or both of you aren't making enough effort to create shared experiences.
7. If one or both of you have had an affair, or an affair is on going, it may have destroyed the trust that once existed in the relationship.
8. If you're just staying together and putting a brave face on things over Christmas for the sake of the children.
9. If your partner has started to yearn for greater independence and freedom and are becoming less reliant on you.
10. If the relationship has turned abusive, physical or mental, then you or your partner is better off escaping the relationship.
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? Some may be overcome through communication, counselling and lots of effort, while others, like point 10, are signs that you should speak to a family solicitor or divorce solicitor about your situation.
