subject: The Best Way To Reconnect With Your Ex [print this page] The key to making a new connection with your ex-mate is to understand that you'll by no means be able to proceed to what you once had in the past. After all, you already know the past romance failed to work, therefore there's no point in hoping for that similar ruined relationship back again.
Nevertheless, it is extremely feasible to develop a brand new relationship with your ex, one with different rules and a different foundation to spring from. The longer you spend trying to put together something that's already broken, the longer you're delaying the inevitable. There were reasons why the first version of your relationship simply didn't work, so why bother reproducing them?
Instead, work on ways to bring about a new connection between you and your ex. When you think about it, your ex had feelings for you once. He would have been attracted to something about you that made him want to spend time with you. Then things changed and he didn't want to be in that relationship any longer.
No matter how the relationship ended, those initial feelings of attraction that he once had are still there below the surface. Ask yourself what attracted him to you in the first place. If your
answer is "he liked my looks," then your relationship is doomed. You still look the same and he's not there.
So that's not it. Dig deeper below the surface. I think you'll find that what he liked most about you was more to do with how you made him feel when you first met. He would have been happy spending time with you because you both made a big effort to make sure each other
was having fun and enjoying the date. He would have been drawn to who you are and how you made him feel.
Now think about the last time you were together. Was he having fun? Was he looking at that happy, independent, confident person he originally fell in love with? Or was he faced with a deeply insecure, scared, hurt, angry, upset, emotional girl who's forgotten how to smile?
Of course you won't be feeling your best if you've broken up, but if you take some time to get your head back into the right place, you can become that person again very easily.
If you're serious about creating a bond with your ex, you'll need to spend some time working on bringing back the version of you that he fell in love with in the first place. When you can do that, he'll suddenly be happy to spend time with you again.
