subject: Things to Avoid When Ending Relationships [print this page] Things to Avoid When Ending Relationships
Breaking up with somebody is a big hassle in almost any cases. However, if you know the way to break up properly", you can reduce the pain caused greatly.
First of all, it is important to mention that experience counts a lot in breakups, just like in any other areas of life. If you do it many times, you will discover the things to do and avoid, and you make it easier and easier for you to say goodbye.
But for those having little experience on this field (this should be normal), we can provide some advices.
You have to know that communication is the key. You must talk with each other peacefully, as with angry conversations and yells the thing goes nowhere. If you can talk things over, and find the aspects of your relationship that can be accounted for your part of ways, it will be much easier for both of you to process this sudden change in your lives.
At the same time, you should not be too honest, like telling her that her breath smells like a worn shoe or you hated her make-up. This only worsens things in vain, and will be viewed as heavy insulting. So, don't slam the door behind you when leaving.
Another rule is not to call afterward to see how they are doing. After breaking up, a strong desire may rise to call them to hear how they are doing, and invite them for a coffee. DON'T DO THIS! From these conversations, you will only learn that they are in deep pain because of your breakup, and the meeting can lead to falling back to the same situation. These hasty contacts may make you feel better on the short term, but lead nowhere on the longer run.
After all, if you have made the final decision together or alone, you should stick to that adamantly, as you most likely had the proper reasons to do it. Don't dream about rekindling, as the relationship is sentenced to death.
