subject: Counseling - How to Break Down Relationship Barriers [print this page] Counseling - How to Break Down Relationship Barriers
A normal mother has the affection of her children to give her some emotional support. It's also typical for healthy women to have friends that they can provide supportive hugs to. The hug often says much more than words could ever hope to.Men have very few options for healthy physical touch. Italians and Greeks are an exception. It's perfectly normal to express affection in places like that.Men can't do much more than a handshake in their workplace. A man can go days and weeks without ever being touched by another human being.Consider for a moment how this situation could affect a marriage. This married couple has young active kids. Whether the wife is working outside the home or not, she is giving and receiving physical affirmation often. Breaks from the children can be a real blessing for her at times.Now her husband comes home from work and he hasn't touched another human being all day. He wants to be touched. The table is set for another argument about sex. She feels they had sex just a couple days ago and for him it feels like weeks. Men have very few options for physical affection. Our wives are our primary source.As a result, the husband feels neglected and his wife feels overdrawn.What can be done?Ladies, make the act of touching your husband a habit. Make it a top priority. The acceptance of his wife and mate is what a man desires the most. If he doesn't feel he's getting this, he will eventually give up putting effort into the relationship.Like any other high priority meeting, make time in your schedule for sex with your husband. Keep your commitments. This concept of planning sex may not seem very inspiring. That's not what's most important to men. Men aren't getting any physical affection if they don't receive it from you. As a result, they may look for it elsewhere.Men, don't pretend like you don't have a need for non sexual physical contact from your wife or from other human beings. Physical touch is a normal human need and nothing to be ashamed of. It does not mean you are weak and therefore flawed.Learn to touch your wife physically in ways that don't lead directly to sex. Do it because you want to show her how much you care and like to be near her, not just because you want to have sex.
