subject: Life after Divorce (A Woman's Point of View) [print this page] Life after Divorce (A Woman's Point of View)
First of all, expect these things to happen, because you agree to have a divorce with him. You must be ready of all the consequences; do not let these things bring you down. Below are the things a woman must do positively in her new life after divorce.
Think Single
Face the truth: you are no longer a spouse. You have to adjust yourself being single again. It takes some time getting used to be that way, so it's not easy. You will definitely undergo changes now that you are single.
Being Single is Okay
Single women are often looked down upon by their married peers. You easily considered by them as failures. This concept is not true. In reality, more women choose to remain single, or become single again, to break free from unpromising relationships. This shows true strength rather than weakness among women.
Do Not Try to Get Even (Revenge)
It is not worth trying to get even with your spouse, if he committed infidelity, or hurt your feelings. It would not gain you the peace you really want. It could not make him get back to you. Thus, the bitterness still keeps you from moving on. You will make things much worse. Try to find a friend who will listen to you, or write down the reasons for your anger. It needs an outlet; just release it in a sensible manner.
Your Relationship is Over: Accept That
It should be easy for you to accept that your relationship has ended, when your spouse has moved on and lived in peace. Sadly, this is something that women could not get into. You may find yourself making excuses to visit him by forgetting things at his place, needing to discuss something trivial regarding the children. Do not pressure him with that. Talk and visit to him if you need to, but not that often. Respect his privacy now, because you now lead separate lives. The sooner you accept this, the quicker you will be able to find happiness again.
Do not Encase Yourself in the Past
You sure had some good memories with your former spouse. But remember, but don't dwell on them; just consider them as good ones. "Hit" yourself, if you are thinking of restoring your relationship with him again. There are a lot more moments waiting for you in the future, and that the past is nothing but a memory. You can learn from it, but you cannot return it. It is the future you should be thinking about.
Drowning Yourself in Guilt is not Good
You've probably made a few things which you now regret, but it does not change everything. Reconcile, but don't expect that this could restore the former relationship. Just learn from your mistakes.
Rediscover Yourself
Now is the time to start living freely, without the partner. Do recreational activities that will boost your self-confidence. Change the whole of your self - everything, for your sake.
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