subject: The Breakup was a Bad Idea and Now You Want to Win Your Ex Back [print this page] The Breakup was a Bad Idea and Now You Want to Win Your Ex Back
If you have decided you want to get back with your ex, it is a good idea to seek counsel from some objective experts instead of just going with your gut and following your instincts about how to get back together. If you make the wrong moves in the early stages of trying to repair a broken relationship, you could make it a lot harder to find success.
The first few days after a breakup are filled with all kinds of competing, and very strong, emotions. You hate him, you love him, you hate yourself, you can't believe he did this to you, or you aren't sure you should have done that to him, are all feelings you will experience until your emotions settle down a little.
Because this is such a chaotic time, you should not even consider thinking "I will win my ex back" at this point. Instead, take time to work through your feelings, and, most important, take time to go out and be with other people. It might even be a good idea to try dating someone else for a while. Once you get to a better place in your own life, you might be able to take the first steps to try to get your ex back. But, don't jump in with both feet by following your instincts.
Your instincts might tell youto call him up and beg him to come back to you. Your rational mind knows that a strategy like that is almost certain to fail. Instead, you should get some expert advice on how to formulate a plan that is likely to succeed in getting your ex back. If you follow the right steps in the wake of a breakup, you will have a much better chance of getting back with your ex if that is what you decide you want. You might also decide that the relationship is better left in the past and that you can move on into the next phase of your life without your ex.
